When pubs conversation, we came again to the subject of gays and why so many straight women in their presence so often so much better felt than in the hetero men (I had almost said "normal men", but that no longer is said nowadays even so ).
My interlocutor, a patente, seasoned, experienced, for decades, married mother of two long adult sons - the husband was also present - stressed, as I have heard it many times, once again, how polite and nice and helpful and courteous and gentlemanly, etc. gays against women are just, at any rate the most, as opposed to the standard hetero bully. Since women feel is probably just because it was being treated decently, and especially not permanently turned on an angle from each Seckel.
This view have me by now so many women - a quite conservative in this case - something like above, also I read The same also very often that I will put no fundamental doubt more to it, as I approach instead, and this was an endmost, rare phenomenon. (Although I've also heard women talk about it, they empfänden it among gays as not too long bearable.)
Two aspects of this still came to me then but on the way home but in the mind.
First of all that polite, nice, helpful, courteous, gallant appearance of many women when it brings to them a hetero, is very fast classified as unwanted harassment, as old-fashioned, old fashioned, yes effeminate, even gay.
To address the second aspect want to appear politically or less correct.
May it not be (in addition to being particularly fond of lovely representatives of the female sex times do not want to be constantly stared at and hit on) that less find attractive women enjoy it, even standing around, in comparison with their prettier rivals, not as Pik-seven to have to endure, as the covetous glances always executed articulated elsewhere, the attention, the (attempted) gallantry?
Finally, like even a third aspect to occur. If not yet a fourth.
Woman can namely also quite come up with the idea to commend the company of gays in the skies, in order to annoy heteros, make a joke of it, when are offended, gain power by means of this stratagem.
Finally - on the frequency of this variant could possibly speculate vague - like a woman by such narration also seek to conceal that they like among gays going to catch prey. Finally, yes it increases the appeal of a conquest, when the other first time has no interest.
I probably have but only a fertile imagination, the gays are actually schlichtemang the more civilized and respectable men, and it is all what I'm fabled, in fact, not at all.
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It can not all be good people and gay Frauenversteher. This has been going not only because of the Gaussian distribution curve.
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I just thought times. So far I had direct Konktakt to three gays. One has an extremely good clothing store where we used to live. This man has an incredibly good taste and I was able to take things like that once to try on home if the best husband of all once again had time for nothing.
The second was a barber and actually quite nice, especially to children. Nevertheless, I am eventually stayed away, as he too vorschwärmte me of the beautiful blue eyes of my son. I've got simply no longer felt comfortable, although it - objectively - is determined nonsensical.
The third is a colleague of mine and just cuddly. He always reminds me of Winnie the Pooh, is very funny and otherwise quite refreshing unschwul in his behavior. Actually it did not even fall on. Very nice. But in matters of fashion, I would not feed him for advice. I think it interested him very little.
It beckons from the sun
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You bring him back, this funny, legendary concept of "woman Enver stile". I doubt that has ever been a. However, there are undoubtedly some very successful examples as to give women the feeling that they would be seen. Even among heterosexuals.
I have just entered times the term "Männerversteherin" in Google and am somewhat surprised, because I had to practically never heard (obviously a gap in education), how much material there is to it.
But back to the gays: It may be easier to deal with women readily when they know (or assume at least of who knows how many men are now desbehufs disguised as Gay) that he does not want to wash them, the libidinous He unclouded mind and intellect to tell themselves how to listen and reflect on what they hear in the situation.
However, one must also have the question whether hetero women who are enthusiastic about gays as described, rather the hetero men exhibit an indictment, or himself.
I got the other day by chance with a good friend (hetero) in a gay bar in Stuttgart, loud preppy, good-looking, well-dressed clientele (except maybe me), a few respectable women in between, it no longer held but, admittedly, already the second beer there out, although we were very comfortable, as I (that am I just not used, it made me increasingly nervous) not only from the toilet, but otherwise of a Beau as the other was grinning a grin-naughty horny, so that I only my weekend evening salvation even knew to look in the run.
Me anyway understood not all these Frauenversteher apparently. The realized full well that I will not go, but knew anyway or just a fortiori no mercy.
Well, Nietzsche once said (in connection with an abundant critical view of the Germans and the states in the empire), it could only be shown once spend what you have.
So it may not be just given gays that they understand women very well (or who believe that because they are able easily to suggest it), but the men. Would be only logical, because who where struggling with the difficulties described above. So because an enterprising Hetero might make readily than gay men Understanding consultant its cut, with the motto, "I declare Detlev, as Jürgen ticking and why he is when bitchy." When to spend a beer to him yet, and when the will perceive as an insult, etc.
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I wonder now, the conceptual thread a little further spinning, as well, which is why I've never heard of it (perhaps only represents a gap in education) that lesbian women compared with very kind, understanding, tactful, etc. aufträten, be thought of as frustrated by the hetero women man could speak of this again make assemble, expect it to be finally treated decently, with respect, devoid of any concern bitch.
That would be something that you know that you will not end up anyway, so relax completely, and is served by a whole cooing chicken yard, as though you were a moderate wounded Genghis Khan with some mental crisis of meaning. I'm afraid that does not work.
Are gays not only the better men, but even still the better homosexuals? That would be really terrible.
This must not even think it likely.
Magnus,
maybe I did not express myself misunderstood, but I would not call my colleagues Frauenversteher. He's just a happy and very nice person. A bit round and podgy - like the British very often are just - and therefore the comparison with Winnie the Pooh.
I've never talked to him about women's issues, so can not say whether he is a Frauenversteher.
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I spoke just now with a friend about my article and the topic of women's understanding, and he thought it would help now times nothing, you will now be gay or lesbian or man or woman, somewhat, to understand someone, what, who simply do not must be understood.
In short, he was of the view that there is not only no Frauenversteher, but no woman understand gutters.
I go gay just nerves. Most are not really formed and superficial than the ordinary woman. Sorry.